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Category Archives: aging
Some Days I Can & Other Days I Just Can’t
I can be pretty hard on myself. I think I’m too lax, but that’s what my partner and mum tell me. I am trying desperately to regain my fitness. It gets harder as you’re aging and I suppose even harder … Continue reading
Don’t Know How to Feel About This
I’m getting closer and closer to my father’s age, but he’ll never be any older than 61. It’s weird that if I stood next to him now, to strangers, at the very most he would look like an older brother … Continue reading
I’m Concerned About Injuries
I wish I could push myself to the extreme the way I did without worry in my twenties. That’s one of the hardest parts about aging. I used to walk long distances and swim countless laps in the University pool. … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Cancer, Health & Wellness, Midlife Musings
Tagged aging, anxiety, cancer, exercise, weak knees
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It’s So Easy to Fall Out of a Routine of Good Habits
I fell out of my routine since my last holiday. You see, my routine was very much a forced thing. I was waking up pre dawn, as early as 4.30am, even though I’m naturally a night owl, and going to … Continue reading
Posted in aging, family, Joy, Midlife Musings, Simple Joys
Tagged aging, aunty, children, habits, happiness, history, Life, routine
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Confused & Conflicted (Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder)
I don’t feel old, but I feel old in comparison to those under 30 especially. Grateful to learn from them as they introduce me to a new world. New terms and new ways of looking at the world. A kind … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Midlife Musings
Tagged aging, beauty, body positive, discrimination, fat, personal, thoughts
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My Blog is a Work in Progress
It’s never the finished product, but more like a dairy entry. A diary entry that I can rework easily. I keep editing as I discover embarrassing errors (mostly due to autocorrect), and new information, especially for my biographical posts. I … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Blogging & Writing, Culture & Society, family, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged biography, blogging, publisher, writing
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Writing About Stuff that Troubles Me
I often think I need to get it all out in order to feel better, but often what I feel is self conscious and not any better. You know how some people are so self assured they don’t give a … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Blogging & Writing, Grief, Trauma
Tagged CBT, self conscious, therapy, trauma, writing
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Greatest Fears as You Age Relate to Lack of Autonomy
1. Loosing those you can’t bear to live without 2. Loosing your autonomy and thus freedom. Being controlled by someone else (worst of all a stranger who is given power over you) due to lack of finances or physical strength, … Continue reading
If I Had A Year Left To Live
Whatever time I had I would want to spend with the ones I love. And beyond that I would regret not writing down my life story and what I’ve learnt. All the things I’ve kept hidden which is actually not … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Blogging & Writing, Cancer, Midlife Musings, Trauma
Tagged Food, Life, Living, love, trauma, travel, writing
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Sentimental Value – 21st Birthday Gift from My Father
As I regularly try to declutter for my peace of mind I come across a lot of things I don’t use but can’t part with. If I go by Marie Kondo’s rule of keeping things that spark joy, I have … Continue reading
Fascinated by Salman Rushdie revealing the best period of his life
If I could go back and relive any time in my life, I’d start in 1979. I was just finishing Midnight’s Children and my first son was about to be born. In fact, I remember telling his mother to just … Continue reading
Trying to be My Own Therapist & Psyche Myself Up
I want to be more in control of my life and not let my anxieties highjack my peace. I want to stop having insomnia and when I finally fall asleep, nightmares. My own perceptions of advancing age and illness are … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Blogging & Writing, Cancer, Midlife Musings, Trauma, When Work Sucks
Tagged aging, confidence, Life, overcoming, personal
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Feeling Lost today till a Stranger (not quite actually) & Kind Soul reached out
19 years ago I lost my beloved Papa and this whole week (the dates) are a reminder of my nightmares and trauma. I did things today, I would normally enjoy, but I couldn’t quite taste my food or have any … Continue reading
My Hysterectomy gave me a release I never expected
Till age 45 I still felt a vacuum inside and a longing for a child. It’s something I could tell no one. Most of my friends had kids and I felt alienated from them. Even at this late age it … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Cancer, Culture & Society, Midlife Musings
Tagged Aunt, childless, childless not by choice, grief, isolation, Life, personal, stigma
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My Greatest Worry is that Health Insurance Terms & Premiums Keep Changing
The Insurance companies blame the doctors and even the patients, the doctors point out that insurance companies have high management and sales commission costs too. In the end the patient is the one who suffers, especially if they have a … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Cancer, Singapore Living
Tagged aging, anxiety, cancer, consumer rights, distress, health insurance, Life, premiums, unethical
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My Partner’s Thoughts on Aging
Decided to ask B as well, after sharing my mum’s refreshing optimistic viewpoint in the last post. He’s usually a logical pessimist, while I’m a more emotional anxious person and we don’t always agree, so I was surprised to find … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Midlife Musings
Tagged aging, diabetes, health, Natural, plastic surgery, thoughts, vanity
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Aging Sucks
No matter what I hear about aging giving you more wisdom etc, to me it just plain sucks. I feel like myself on the inside, but the outside is betraying my identity. Don’t think I’ve changed much since my thirties … Continue reading
