Category Archives: Anxiety

Feel So Happy Meeting with Two of My Cousins After Almost 4 Years

I have social anxiety, but I don’t feel it with people I’m comfortable with like my cousins. I practically saw them grow up, being the much older cousin. They were the cutest toddlers. It’s true what they say about cousins … Continue reading

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Grateful for Relaxing Moments: Flat Whites & Lattes at Cosy Cafes

It’s when I feel the most relaxed outside. I like going back to the same places. Cafe Aux Bacchanale and Da Paolo Gastronomia. Familiar friendly faces, good quality and comfy chairs. I do have social anxiety as I imagine many … Continue reading

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Tambuah Mas: Indonesian Food in Singapore (& A Visit to the Ophthalmologist)

This place has been around for decades, but I haven’t been here since the 90’s. Very delicious at the Paragon branch. My sister treated us after a visit to the ophthalmologist. Eyes were dilated, so everything was blurry. It still … Continue reading

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My History

Some blogs are truly engaging. Often I am so drawn in that I feel compelled to leave a comment. Usually the writer has been incredibly generous and brave with their life story. I can’t help but wonder, am I wasting … Continue reading

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Anxiety: Why Am I Wired This Way?

My brain has been wired by trauma to always think of the worse possible outcome, so that I can be prepared. I’m constantly in fight or flight mode. It’s a terrible state to be in and I wish I wasn’t … Continue reading

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Grief

I needed to find some distance, before I wrote this post. A lot of it is just too painful, locked away somewhere in my sub-conscience, revealed in my recurring dreams. I understand now that grief is the intense longing. No, … Continue reading

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Can I Go Back to the Nineties Please?

I must be missing out I think, as I watch people get ecstatic on social media, posting jubilant memes in response to Singapore lifting some covid restrictions. Alcohol consumption will soon be allowed after 10.30 pm and live music. You … Continue reading

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It’s a Lonelier Place with Devices

I know that devices have given us so many conveniences. In an emergency, when a lorry knocked down my eldest cousin, my mum had to rush to a neighbour’s house to use the telephone to call his mum, her elder … Continue reading

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