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Category Archives: Midlife Musings
Some Days I Can & Other Days I Just Can’t
I can be pretty hard on myself. I think I’m too lax, but that’s what my partner and mum tell me. I am trying desperately to regain my fitness. It gets harder as you’re aging and I suppose even harder … Continue reading
An Introvert Who Likes People
I am not a good conversationalist. I like it when friendly strangers speak to me, but I always feel like I respond in an awkward manner. My partner tells me that I look approachable unlike him. I think I am … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings
Tagged Anthony Bourdain, introvert, Life, Living, personal
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No More Masks on Trains or Buses
I was nervous when I heard the news that from Valentines Eve, no less, the rule to wear masks was being removed. You’d think I should be jumping for joy. Back when the rule was imposed, old me would have … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Covid, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged Life, Living, masks, Singapore, thoughts
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I’m Concerned About Injuries
I wish I could push myself to the extreme the way I did without worry in my twenties. That’s one of the hardest parts about aging. I used to walk long distances and swim countless laps in the University pool. … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Cancer, Health & Wellness, Midlife Musings
Tagged aging, anxiety, cancer, exercise, weak knees
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#18. Simple Joys: A Dragon Dance
Just when I was thinking my life is so humdrum, I heard a cacophony of cymbals and drums and headed towards it. I felt so uplifted and blessed to be perfectly on time for a dragon dance. And in my … Continue reading
Posted in Culture & Society, Midlife Musings, Simple Joys, Singapore Living
Tagged Chinese New Year, dragon dance, joy, Life, photography, pink dragon, simple joys, travel
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Feel Like I Have Nothing Significant to Share Right Now
It is why I hardly write. I only write when I feel the compulsion. It can’t really be forced especially with regards to matters of the heart. Also I am now extremely self conscious about the oversharing I did shortly … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Cancer, Midlife Musings, Trauma
Tagged abuse, cancer, Life, oversharing, relationships, secrets, trauma
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13 Days Into the New Year
This post will be all over the place as I cram thoughts about these several days into one post. I’m getting used to the psoriosis. I also now realise that the daivobet steroid gel has worked after a month. Some … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings
Tagged 2023, alone, friends, Life, Living, loneliness, midlife, New Year, personal, solitude, thoughts
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It’s Another New Year & I’m Feeling Hopeful
That’s exactly what I love about the start of the year. It gives me the possibility of renewal and hope. It was lovely to wake up to sweet new year texts from my aunties uncle and partner. Texts of today … Continue reading
Posted in Joy, Midlife Musings
Tagged 2023, hope, Matilda the musical, movies, New Year, TV
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It’s So Easy to Fall Out of a Routine of Good Habits
I fell out of my routine since my last holiday. You see, my routine was very much a forced thing. I was waking up pre dawn, as early as 4.30am, even though I’m naturally a night owl, and going to … Continue reading
Posted in aging, family, Joy, Midlife Musings, Simple Joys
Tagged aging, aunty, children, habits, happiness, history, Life, routine
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Thankful for My Anxiety for One Reason
I never ever thought I’d actually be thankful for my anxiety. But there’s one reason. It confirms that I’m not a psychopath. If you can’t tell, I’ve been watching a lot of true crime. I’m fascinated by what would prompt … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Midlife Musings, When Work Sucks
Tagged abuse, anxiety, Bullies, empath, personal, psychopath, sexual abuse, trauma, workplace
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Confused & Conflicted (Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder)
I don’t feel old, but I feel old in comparison to those under 30 especially. Grateful to learn from them as they introduce me to a new world. New terms and new ways of looking at the world. A kind … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Midlife Musings
Tagged aging, beauty, body positive, discrimination, fat, personal, thoughts
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Have Not Been Writing
I don’t feel an urge to write when I feel I can’t be completely honest. It’s like – what’s the point? In my entire life I have never lied other than doing it to spare someone’s feelings. Like an insecure … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Blogging & Writing, Cancer, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged anxiety, cancer, honesty, insecurity, Life, writing
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Insecurity
I’m always second guessing myself and wracked with insecurity. I wonder if there was ever a time in my life when I was confident, and the answer would be hardly ever. If at all, it would be for a fleeting … Continue reading
When My Faith is Shaken
When someone I think is highly intelligent, like Ricky Gervais, talks about evidence and no proof there is a God I feel horrified as I listen, because I don’t want to agree. I don’t want my skeptical brain to concur. … Continue reading
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Tagged despair, faith, personal, religion, thoughts, truth
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Ceylonese Singaporean
I am so excited that a novel set in Sri Lanka has been shortlisted for the 2022 Booker prize and I’m hungry to read it. My partner was the one who alerted me to it. He knows me so well. … Continue reading
Posted in Culture & Society, family, Midlife Musings, My Childhood, my teenhood, Singapore Living
Tagged ceylonese, childhood ood, ethnicity, Life, Living, personal, Sri Lanka, thoughts
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5 Things I Thought I Would Have when I was a Child: Letting Go of My Expectations
This is my exercise in letting go of expectations. Sadly life never turns out the way you expect for many, but there have also been treasured joys I never expected as well. When I was a kid I always imagined … Continue reading
Posted in Culture & Society, family, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged children, culture, expectations, happiness, Life, Living, personal
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My Childhood: The Beach & What I Seek in Travel
As a child I didn’t have truly good memories of the beaches in Singapore. My sister and I often developed huge painful welts on our upper arms and always thought it was because we were allergic to sea water. We … Continue reading
Posted in family, Midlife Musings, My Childhood, Singapore Living, Travel
Tagged Beach, childhood, Life, Living, nature, travel
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My Childhood: Garden Stories & Jaffna Cousins
I miss our small tropical garden. Of course, as these things go, I didn’t appreciate it till it was reduced to just a tiny patch devoid of any fruit trees. I miss the Japanese roses my mum tended to in … Continue reading
Posted in family, History, Midlife Musings, My Childhood, Singapore Living
Tagged childhood, cousins, family, Jaffna, Life, memories, Singapore, suicide
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My Blog is a Work in Progress
It’s never the finished product, but more like a dairy entry. A diary entry that I can rework easily. I keep editing as I discover embarrassing errors (mostly due to autocorrect), and new information, especially for my biographical posts. I … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Blogging & Writing, Culture & Society, family, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged biography, blogging, publisher, writing
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Evolution of my Blog
When I first started out blogging actively and regularly in 2010, it was mostly superficial posts on celebs, food and touristy things. It made life exciting. Being a tourist in your own country. These are often my more cheerful posts. … Continue reading
Posted in Blogging & Writing, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged blog, blogging, personal, thoughts, writing
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Were there Tasks You Hated Doing as a Child?
I’m asking myself questions and often I go off on a tangent, but that’s my purpose. My method of jogging my memory before it all fades. For me, as I was not made to do any chores, it was mostly … Continue reading
Posted in Culture & Society, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, Trauma
Tagged 70's, 80's, abuse, childhood, Life, math, Tamil, Teachers, trauma
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Bus Ride: Living Deliberately
Raindrops on the big glass panel. The coolness of a drizzly morning. Looking out I see teenaged joy. Two on a bike. An old lady with a blue umbrella dragging her trolley on the way to get her groceries. Bell … Continue reading
Posted in Blogging & Writing, Joy, Midlife Musings, Simple Joys, Singapore Living
Tagged bus ride, Life, Living, Singapore, slow living, thoughts
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