I Talk About
-
Recent Posts
Copyright
Unless otherwise indicated, all photos featured on the blog were taken by me. All Rights Reserved Singapore Actually 2022Archives
Meta
Love Your Comments
- Janet on Plant Based: Who Knew it Could Be so Yummy
- bookjunkie on #18. Simple Joys: A Dragon Dance
- Uta Hannemann on #18. Simple Joys: A Dragon Dance
- bookjunkie on It’s Another New Year & I’m Feeling Hopeful
Category Archives: Midlife Musings
My Thoughts About Interviews & Ethics
In the past I’ve had a range of job interviews. Most of them have been soul crushing. It is why I will always be thankful to the interview panel at the New Zealand Embassy, even though I didn’t make it … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged culture, discrimination, ethics, job interviews, Life, Living, Singapore, Toxic, values, work
Leave a comment
This Crazy Need to be Constantly Productive
I look at characters in movies and they get so much done within a day. It makes me feel like a sloth, as on some days, even waking up is a chore. There’s this constant need to be ticking off … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged culture, empathy, ethics, kindness, Life, Living, personal, Singapore, thoughts, values
Leave a comment
Thoughts about Procrastination, Anxiety & Punctuality
Someone wise whom I spoke to recently, told me that she resolves her anxiety by doing something. Often she does something physical like go for a walk. This is so true. I find that when I actually do something, I’ve … Continue reading
Posted in Blogging & Writing, Midlife Musings
Tagged anxiety, Life, Living, procrastination, punctuality, thoughts, values
Leave a comment
Conversations About The Second World War
We mentioned to my almost 86 year old uncle that we recently visited the National Museum. There was an exhibit about the Second World War and Japanese Occupation of Singapore. It made him recollect: “When we heard the sirens we … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged education, family, grief, history, Japanese occupation, memories, old Singapore, personal, thoughts, War
Leave a comment
My History
Some blogs are truly engaging. Often I am so drawn in that I feel compelled to leave a comment. Usually the writer has been incredibly generous and brave with their life story. I can’t help but wonder, am I wasting … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Blogging & Writing, Culture & Society, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged Ceylon, ceylonese, childless, childless by circumstance, culture, Life, Living, midlife, no children, personal, Singapore, society
Leave a comment
Does Midlife Begin When You Hit Menopause?
My sister is 50 but hasn’t hit menopause yet and has a remarkable amount of energy. The energy she has is comparable to what I had in my twenties which makes me wonder why I’m so defective. We share 50% … Continue reading
Posted in Cancer, Midlife Musings
Tagged age 50, age 51, aging, cancer, hot flush, menopause, personal, surgical menopause, thoughts, tips
Leave a comment
Catching the Sunrise
I am so glad we can now walk outside without our masks. It feels so liberating to be able to take a slow walk and breathe in the fresh morning air. Oh and a glimpse of that orange blue skyline … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged beautiful, family, Life, Living, photography, photos, Singapore, walking
2 Comments
Anxiety: Why Am I Wired This Way?
My brain has been wired by trauma to always think of the worse possible outcome, so that I can be prepared. I’m constantly in fight or flight mode. It’s a terrible state to be in and I wish I wasn’t … Continue reading
The 21st Anniversary of My Very First Major Operation
It’s crazy to think that around this time 21 years ago I was rushed to hospital and they had to perform an emergency appendectomy. It was my very first time under the knife and pretty much a traumatic nightmare. A … Continue reading
Posted in Cancer, Midlife Musings
Tagged appendectomy, cancer, cancer surgery, Life, Living, operations, personal, tumours
Leave a comment
Netflix: The Lost Daughter
This is probably an unpopular opinion, but I really loathed and was actually repulsed by the main character Leda in ‘The Lost Daughter’, played by Olivia Coleman. She has an affair and leaves her two very young daughters for three … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings
Tagged children, culture, Life, motherhood, movie review, personal, The Lost Daughter
Leave a comment
Is This Old Age?
I refuse to accept that I’m old at just 51. But these days, whenever I struggle to wake up, with all the muscles and joints in my upper body aching, I feel old. When my mum was 51 she looked … Continue reading
Posted in Cancer, Midlife Musings
Tagged aging, getting old, Life, Living, midlife, old age, personal, thoughts
Leave a comment
Grief
I needed to find some distance, before I wrote this post. A lot of it is just too painful, locked away somewhere in my sub-conscience, revealed in my recurring dreams. I understand now that grief is the intense longing. No, … Continue reading
The Oscars : About Will Smith Hitting Chris Rock
I will never condone someone loosing their temper and using violence. If someone was defending me that way I would just be mortified. That’s not love. That’s ego, rage and lack of self control. To see Will Smith cry and … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, My Celebrity Addiction
Tagged Academy Awards, movies, Oscars, rage, thoughts
2 Comments
Can I Go Back to the Nineties Please?
I must be missing out I think, as I watch people get ecstatic on social media, posting jubilant memes in response to Singapore lifting some covid restrictions. Alcohol consumption will soon be allowed after 10.30 pm and live music. You … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Culture & Society, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged culture, happiness, health, Life, Living, memories, Nostalgia, personal, Singapore, thoughts, work
2 Comments
How the Society you live in Determines Happiness
Warning: this is yet another rambling, meandering post. Stream of consciousness? At first listening to the French Duolingo podcasts was inspiring but after a while I found a common theme. The protagonist surmounted all the odds to win a contest … Continue reading
Posted in Health & Wellness, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged children, culture, happiness, Life, Living, Singapore, values
Leave a comment
Blogging: Are There Any Personal Bloggers Out There Any More?
Seems really hard to find you. Most blogs seem to have a commercial slant or look truly slick and perfect, like a glossy magazine. I’m looking for something a little less polished and more raw. Something that contains not just … Continue reading
Posted in Blogging & Writing, Midlife Musings
Tagged blogging, Life, Living, personal, Singapore, thoughts, writing
3 Comments
It’s Supposed to be the First Day of Spring in The Northern Hemisphere
I say supposed to be, as we don’t really have the 4 seasons in Singapore apart from the monsoon seasons. Technically we are in the northern hemisphere, but so close to the equator that our days and nights are evenly … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged Life, Living, nature, personal, photography, photos, Singapore, thoughts, travel, weather
Leave a comment
Life is unfair and humility is underrated
I hesitate to publish my raw thoughts. I’m aware that beneath this post lies my own bitterness due to certain traumas in life. But perhaps my thoughts about disparity and privilege might strike a chord with you. You see, on … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged culture, disparity, ego, humility, Life, Living, personal, Singapore, thoughts, values
Leave a comment
Culture Shock #2: I will never understand why shoes are worn indoors
Even worse than not removing footwear and continuing to wear them indoors? Hopping onto beds with their shoes on. As a kid I just couldn’t understand it watching this on TV. I was imagining all the filth and grime from … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged culture, hygiene, Life, Living, personal, shoes indoors, Singapore, thoughts
5 Comments
It’s a Lonelier Place with Devices
I know that devices have given us so many conveniences. In an emergency, when a lorry knocked down my eldest cousin, my mum had to rush to a neighbour’s house to use the telephone to call his mum, her elder … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Midlife Musings
Tagged culture, devices, happiness, Life, Living, personal, smart phones
4 Comments
Culture Shock #1: Why is Living with Your Parents Stigmatized
As a kid in Asia I never could understand why in most Christmas movies, the kid who lives apart from their parents, often in a different State, dreads their visit. Why don’t they love their parents? It confused me on … Continue reading
Nostalgia: Old Fashioned Cream Cakes
These butter cream cakes with jam on top, transport me back to afternoons with my grandmother, aunties, uncles and cousins. I was one of the younger ones then as it was the early 70’s and the rest of my cousins … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged childhood, cream cakes, grandmother, Life, Living, Nostalgia, Singapore
Leave a comment
