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Category Archives: When Work Sucks
Thankful for My Anxiety for One Reason
I never ever thought I’d actually be thankful for my anxiety. But there’s one reason. It confirms that I’m not a psychopath. If you can’t tell, I’ve been watching a lot of true crime. I’m fascinated by what would prompt … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Midlife Musings, When Work Sucks
Tagged abuse, anxiety, Bullies, empath, personal, psychopath, sexual abuse, trauma, workplace
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Most Job Ads Make Things Sound More Difficult than they are
Social media jobs always ask for knowledge of CapCut or knowledge of CMS. I felt very intimidated. Thought these must be something only Gen Z will know. I’m way too old to ever learn these. Turns out CapCut is just … Continue reading
Posted in Blogging & Writing, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged CapCut, CMS, jobs, social media, tiktok, WordPress
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Trying to be My Own Therapist & Psyche Myself Up
I want to be more in control of my life and not let my anxieties highjack my peace. I want to stop having insomnia and when I finally fall asleep, nightmares. My own perceptions of advancing age and illness are … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Blogging & Writing, Cancer, Midlife Musings, Trauma, When Work Sucks
Tagged aging, confidence, Life, overcoming, personal
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Being Human
The inadequacy I feel is crushing. I can’t believe I am here. How did I even get here? I know the various traumas. I feel like a broken recorder. No one likes to hear complaints. Well perhaps you won’t mind … Continue reading
Posted in Cancer, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged feelings, Life, Low confidence, personal, self esteem, shame
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Why I Always Reach For Food
Wish I didn’t succumb to this, but I do, I always do. The lure of tasty food. I eat especially when I’m upset or often when I’m bored. Always for a celebration. Food makes me so happy and it’s what … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, Trauma, When Work Sucks
Tagged abuse, child abuse, childhood, fat shaming, Food, trauma
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Internal Life
I wonder if everyone’s internal life is as vocal or non stop like mine. The internal voice of your consciousness. I suppose it’s this way for most introverts who need and enjoy introspective time to unwind. It’s why I write. … Continue reading
Posted in Blogging & Writing, Cancer, Grief, When Work Sucks
Tagged friendship, grief, introvert, Life, loss, memories, papa, Time, writing
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Thoughts about Our Existence
As I get older, reality doesn’t seem as solid anymore. Everything feels hazy. Almost dream like. I absolutely can’t process that I’m 51 already and 52 next. Past the dreaded milestone (I also have survivor’s guilt as in why did … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, When Work Sucks
Tagged advice, aging, death, grief, Life, midlife, thoughts
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There’s a wework at Funan
Surreal to see this after seeing Jared Leto’s mesmerising performance in the We Crashed TV show. I still don’t fully understand the concept. It’s independent freelancers? But usually freelancers won’t be able to afford the pretty high monthly fee. It … Continue reading
Why it’s Better to Grow Up in Singapore Today Compared to the 70’s and 80’s
These are just my personal feelings (I’m a diary blogger & not a journalist by any means) based on my particular childhood experiences some of which I don’t wish to relive. Nothing set in concrete. I used to always think … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged culture, Life, Living, personal, Singapore, thoughts, values, women
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My Thoughts About Interviews & Ethics
In the past I’ve had a range of job interviews. Most of them have been soul crushing. It is why I will always be thankful to the interview panel at the New Zealand Embassy, even though I didn’t make it … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged culture, discrimination, ethics, job interviews, Life, Living, Singapore, Toxic, values, work
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This Crazy Need to be Constantly Productive
I look at characters in movies and they get so much done within a day. It makes me feel like a sloth, as on some days, even waking up is a chore. There’s this constant need to be ticking off … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged culture, empathy, ethics, kindness, Life, Living, personal, Singapore, thoughts, values
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Can I Go Back to the Nineties Please?
I must be missing out I think, as I watch people get ecstatic on social media, posting jubilant memes in response to Singapore lifting some covid restrictions. Alcohol consumption will soon be allowed after 10.30 pm and live music. You … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Culture & Society, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged culture, happiness, health, Life, Living, memories, Nostalgia, personal, Singapore, thoughts, work
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How the Society you live in Determines Happiness
Warning: this is yet another rambling, meandering post. Stream of consciousness? At first listening to the French Duolingo podcasts was inspiring but after a while I found a common theme. The protagonist surmounted all the odds to win a contest … Continue reading
Posted in Health & Wellness, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, When Work Sucks
Tagged children, culture, happiness, Life, Living, Singapore, values
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Kim Kardashian is Tone Deaf & Offensive on Variety Magazine
I was deeply offended hearing Kim Kardashian insult ordinary folk and the less privileged in a video posted by Variety. She rudely said “Get your f***g ass up and work! “ I was glad to hear the voice of reason … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, My Celebrity Addiction, When Work Sucks
Tagged Kim kardashian, values, work
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Horrible Late Hours Work Culture
I will never understand why many bosses expect and demand that employees stay late at work. It doesn’t matter if you take home work to complete. They don’t care. They want to be able to actually see you at the … Continue reading
Posted in When Work Sucks
Tagged Bad Bosses, hell, horrible, late, long hours, Singapore, sucks, unproductive, work, work culture
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Why Are Most Job Interviewers in Singapore So Mean?
I felt so mad and sorry for Lady J for what she had to go through. It’s an issue that has been infuriating me for years. Why don’t job interviewers in Singapore show some basic decency and respect. Haven’t they … Continue reading
Posted in When Work Sucks
Tagged Angry, interviewer, job, Lady J, mad, respect, rude, Singapore, suck
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Video Clips: Inside the SMRT Train Delay & the CEO’s Response
Words just seem hollow. I’ll just let the clips of the CEO speak for themselves. [youtube]z0S4L0guve8[/youtube] [youtube]c3ERS9VvWV0[/youtube] First time I am watching these clips, since I stopped watching the news. [youtube]bqdl5b4nGZA[/youtube] Actual footage of people caught in the stuffy train. … Continue reading
Posted in When Work Sucks
Tagged clip, delay, employees, fainted, HR, motivation, no ventilation, Singapore, SMRT, stuffy, train, train officers, Video, work, workers, YouTube
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Shangri-la Hotel
To me Shangri-la Hotel kinda feels like home, because we used to organize several conferences here and I even stayed in the hotel once. As a teen I always dreamt of working in a hotel as it seems so glamourous, … Continue reading
Posted in When Work Sucks
Tagged Architecture, decor, design, Entertainment, hotel, Life, Living, lobby, photography, photos, Pool, Shangri-la Hotel, Singapore, travel
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I Wish Singapore Companies would embrace the Management Philosophy of Trust
[youtube]f60dheI4ARg[/youtube] Based on my experiences at work, the best and most productive times I had were at forward thinking companies that were non hierarchical. The lean, flat and collaborative structure really works. But most of all, and I think I … Continue reading
Posted in When Work Sucks
Tagged companies, creativity, failure, hierarchy, management philosophy, respect, Singapore, Steve Jobs, team work, telecommuting, trust, work
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The Anxiety of Singapore’s Work Culture & In Praise of Idleness
I am increasingly unable to bear the crushing anxiety that bears down upon me nightly. It is the reason for the insomnia and daily nightmares. I am in a constant state of fear and guilt. Guilt arising from any form … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, When Work Sucks
Tagged anxiety, bad, Bertrand Russell, culture, distress, happiness, idleness, In Praise of Idleness, Life, Living, long hours, mental illness, office, personal, quotes, Singapore, work life, work life balance
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