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My Psoriasis Journey: At My Wits’ End, but Trying to be Zen
I’m going for distraction. Mostly Netflix and phone apps do the trick so well. And writing of course. Doing that on my phone right now. (So thanks Steve). It’s almost comical that the trigger for psoriosis is stress and eliminating … Continue reading
Psoriasis: Visit to the Dermatologist
I feel hopeful after my visit to the second dermatologist. Prior to this I saw a male doctor. He was nice but I prefer female doctors, and my gynaecologist whom I trust, referred me to her. I have confidence in … Continue reading
My Eldest Cousin M
Been thinking a lot about my cousin M lately. To be accurate, he’s never left my mind. After he passed away in his sleep in 1995 (he was only 37 years old and it was attributed to an epileptic fit) … Continue reading
Typical Day in the Life of My Mum in the early 1960’s
She couldn’t recall exactly what time she woke up, but it was to the crowing of the neighbourhood roosters and not an alarm clock. They were extremely loud she said. She ironed her uniform the day before. Once adorned, she … Continue reading
Posted in Culture & Society, family, History, Singapore Living
Tagged 1960, 1960's, culture, family, history, Life, Living, mum, personal, Singapore
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Family Ties: Aunts, Uncles & Cousins
I recently asked my uncle how he felt when his son was just born. “Were you nervous being a father now? Nervous about having to carry a baby.” He said not really, and then I realised my baby cousin (I … Continue reading
Posted in Culture & Society, family, History, Singapore Living
Tagged aunts, ceylonese, cousins, culture, family, Life, Living, personal, Singapore, uncles
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Evolution of my Blog
When I first started out blogging actively and regularly in 2010, it was mostly superficial posts on celebs, food and touristy things. It made life exciting. Being a tourist in your own country. These are often my more cheerful posts. … Continue reading
Posted in Blogging & Writing, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged blog, blogging, personal, thoughts, writing
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What I Admired Most about My Father (Partner Edition)
His penmanship comes to mind. It was beautifully and artistically rendered. Calligraphy in fact. I admired his cool signature. He had to stop schooling at Primary 3 because he was biologically the eldest kid and had 5 or 6 younger … Continue reading
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Tagged father, history, Life, Living, personal, Singapore
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One on One is Best for Me
Since the pandemic I realise more and more that I’m more comfortable having one on one conversations. No small talk for me. Life is too short for that. It’s why I find making new friends hard. I also don’t have … Continue reading
Posted in family, Joy, Midlife Musings
Tagged family, introvert, Life, Living, pandemic, personal
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Conversations with My Mum’s Younger Sister
One of my role models of being an aunt is how my aunty was towards me growing up. She was young and vivacious and in my eyes stunningly beautiful especially in her saris. And she was absolutely doting and indulgent … Continue reading
Posted in History, Singapore Living
Tagged 1960's, Life, Living, memories, personal, Singapore
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Asking my 76 Year old Mum About her Reaction to the Queen’s Passing and About Life Under British Colonial Rule
What follows is in my mum’s words: When I read the news about the queen I thought she looked much younger than her years. I was impressed that she didn’t age that much. I only wish she could live until … Continue reading
Posted in Culture & Society, History, Singapore Living
Tagged 1950’s, 1960's, British rule, British Singapore, colonial, history, Life, Living, mum, Nostalgia, personal
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A Prayer…
Please remove all pain and anxiety. Keep our loved ones safe. And before we know it As if we were never parted Reunite us with those we cherish. Love, light, peace and serenity for all.
#1. Simple Joys – A Seat on the MRT
Getting a seat on the train (MRT) . And I don’t mind taking a longer route and less crowded line, in order to get one. I previously had a Happiness in Singapore list but Janet’s ‘The Little Things’ post inspired … Continue reading
Posted in Singapore Living
Tagged happiness, joy, Life, Living, personal, photos, simple joys, Singapore
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Fascinated by Salman Rushdie revealing the best period of his life
If I could go back and relive any time in my life, I’d start in 1979. I was just finishing Midnight’s Children and my first son was about to be born. In fact, I remember telling his mother to just … Continue reading
Trying to be My Own Therapist & Psyche Myself Up
I want to be more in control of my life and not let my anxieties highjack my peace. I want to stop having insomnia and when I finally fall asleep, nightmares. My own perceptions of advancing age and illness are … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Blogging & Writing, Cancer, Midlife Musings, Trauma, When Work Sucks
Tagged aging, confidence, Life, overcoming, personal
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Feeling Lost today till a Stranger (not quite actually) & Kind Soul reached out
19 years ago I lost my beloved Papa and this whole week (the dates) are a reminder of my nightmares and trauma. I did things today, I would normally enjoy, but I couldn’t quite taste my food or have any … Continue reading
Oncology Checkup
My writing today will be as real as it can get. Just pure emotion. In real time. 9am: Can’t bring myself to wake up and face the day. There is a heaviness of dread. Can’t wait for the ordeal to … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Cancer
Tagged anxiety, cancer, cathaport, oncologist, personal, Port, radiologist, thoughts, tumour markers
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My Hysterectomy gave me a release I never expected
Till age 45 I still felt a vacuum inside and a longing for a child. It’s something I could tell no one. Most of my friends had kids and I felt alienated from them. Even at this late age it … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Cancer, Culture & Society, Midlife Musings
Tagged Aunt, childless, childless not by choice, grief, isolation, Life, personal, stigma
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What it was like growing up in the 70’s and 80’s – corded, rotary and pay phones
To have privacy for my phone calls as a teenager, I had to pull the cord of the only home phone and I couldn’t even shut the door of my room as the cord was thick. You were restricted by … Continue reading
Posted in Culture & Society, History, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged childhood, Life, Nostalgia, personal, rotary phones, telephones
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My Origin Story from the 70’s- thanks to my mum’s meticulous diaries
My mum shared an old diary of hers with me. “All my secrets” she said. She recorded all her purchases and gifts she received since the 1970’s. The first thing that struck me? Wow, the inflation. Cars were a fraction … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged 1970's, inflation, Life, mum, Nostalgia, personal
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Aging Sucks
No matter what I hear about aging giving you more wisdom etc, to me it just plain sucks. I feel like myself on the inside, but the outside is betraying my identity. Don’t think I’ve changed much since my thirties … Continue reading
One of My Mum’s proudest moments as a kid back in 1957
My mum always told me the story of how she failed primary 3 and had to repeat it. Every time, she sounded so sad and dejected. She only failed by 1.5 marks too and she was a sickly child. We … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings
Tagged Amma, colonial, family, history, love, mother, personal, values
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