I think this poem translated into a film is just beautiful and meditative. The poet is Tanya Davis. Watching the little clip made me feel so much more relaxed and for a moment, no longer constrained under the glare of societies’ norms and people’s expectations. Who says alone is bad? Sometimes alone can be liberating. I love the line,
“If you’re happy in your head and solitude is blessed, than alone is ok”
I am one of those people who used to be extremely self-conscious about eating alone and then I did it once, in a coffee shop, with a book, and it wasn’t so bad. I have yet to enjoy watching a movie in a theatre alone. I tried it once and didn’t quite like it. I felt like all eyes were on me. I am not so comfortable with that yet and I like feeling someone I know, next to me. Someone I can share the experience with.
I would love to hear about things you love to do alone and how you enjoy solitude. My cousin and sister and very comfortable driving and travelling on planes alone, and I think they even enjoy it. My cousin is well equipped with her Bose noiseless headphones, laptop and ipod filled with her favourite music. It sounds quite lovely when I write about it, but my fear is that, I will somehow miss the plane and end up stuck somewhere. Maybe it’s because I have never been compelled to do it. Even at work I went for conferences with people I knew. There is always someone to accompany me and I’m happy about that. Being alone is not about rejecting people. It’s about being ok with being alone.
I just don’t think it’s fair when society knocks single people or child-free people. Somehow they are pictured as some kind of freaks just because they didn’t or unable to follow the usual path. The pressures fall more on women. Women are laden with the negative word spinster while men can happily be bachelors even at an advanced age. Issues like this make the feminist in me growl.
The thing I love doing alone the most, is writing. Somehow the words flow when there is complete silence and I am in a room by myself in the middle of the night. Listening to music I like is another thing I could do alone. What else? Reading a book in bed in my favorite thing in the world. I used to go swimming alone at night, and feeling the water lap against you made you feel so serene. I haven’t done that in ages.