Category Archives: Culture & Society

Thoughts of My Youngest Cousin

What cousin G related to me: I feel totally Singaporean. Sri Lanka has no impact or significance to me. I feel nothing much. More curious about Jaffna, because of my roots and as part of history. (About my eldest cousin … Continue reading

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Revelations by my Youngest Uncle

Uncle S related that it’s very hard for him to recollect a lot of the past as he has memory lapses due to the seizures he suffers from. But I appreciate that he did try very hard to share his … Continue reading

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Ceylonese Singaporean

I am so excited that a novel set in Sri Lanka has been shortlisted for the 2022 Booker prize and I’m hungry to read it. My partner was the one who alerted me to it. He knows me so well. … Continue reading

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5 Things I Thought I Would Have when I was a Child: Letting Go of My Expectations

This is my exercise in letting go of expectations. Sadly life never turns out the way you expect for many, but there have also been treasured joys I never expected as well. When I was a kid I always imagined … Continue reading

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Fried Mutton with Potatoes

My mum learnt how to cook various ceylonese dishes, observing my grandma. Back then she mostly did the menial work like cutting up and grinding stuff. You could say, she was sous chef to the chef (grandma) and she started … Continue reading

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Typical Childhood in the 1950’s (Uncle A’s perspective), with a Preamble About Recording Stories

I’m noting down family details and it’s all these little stories and varying perspectives that may come in useful for a story about a typical Singaporean family that have their ancestral roots in Sri Lanka, specifically Jaffna. Of course no … Continue reading

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My Blog is a Work in Progress

It’s never the finished product, but more like a dairy entry. A diary entry that I can rework easily. I keep editing as I discover embarrassing errors (mostly due to autocorrect), and new information, especially for my biographical posts. I … Continue reading

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Typical Day in the Life of My Mum in the early 1960’s

She couldn’t recall exactly what time she woke up, but it was to the crowing of the neighbourhood roosters and not an alarm clock. They were extremely loud she said. She ironed her uniform the day before. Once adorned, she … Continue reading

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Family Ties: Aunts, Uncles & Cousins

I recently asked my uncle how he felt when his son was just born. “Were you nervous being a father now? Nervous about having to carry a baby.” He said not really, and then I realised my baby cousin (I … Continue reading

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Were there Tasks You Hated Doing as a Child?

I’m asking myself questions and often I go off on a tangent, but that’s my purpose. My method of jogging my memory before it all fades. For me, as I was not made to do any chores, it was mostly … Continue reading

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What I Admired Most about My Father (Partner Edition)

His penmanship comes to mind. It was beautifully and artistically rendered. Calligraphy in fact. I admired his cool signature. He had to stop schooling at Primary 3 because he was biologically the eldest kid and had 5 or 6 younger … Continue reading

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What do you Admire Most about your Father? Question posed to my Uncle, Aunt & Mum

I’ve been exploring prompting questions to ask my relatives, and I thought this was a good one. It really doesn’t matter if the answer goes a bit off tangent as the key goal is to prompt memories about a loved … Continue reading

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Asking my 76 Year old Mum About her Reaction to the Queen’s Passing and About Life Under British Colonial Rule

What follows is in my mum’s words: When I read the news about the queen I thought she looked much younger than her years. I was impressed that she didn’t age that much. I only wish she could live until … Continue reading

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Is Having Instant Information Helping Us More than Hurting Us?

Well for one thing, my concentration is not as good as it used to be with all these new distractions. But these distractions are oh so enticing. It’s no surprise that Tik Tok has grown exponentially to become the most … Continue reading

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Impressed by the Netflix show Brainchild

The tween nieces introduced me to this spectacular educational tv show for kids. It’s edutainment. I was most impressed that the host of the show is of Indian ethnicity. Yay a brown girl and so far from a stereotype. She’s … Continue reading

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Writing & Discomfort

Often after publishing something I feel strongly about, I feel really insecure and uncomfortable. I worry that it’ll be taken the wrong way. I also hate being judged. But that’s part of honest writing. You have to take the brick … Continue reading

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Do People Still Blog or Read Blogs

I started in 2005 when I had a digital camera so it was easy to upload photos and write some accompanying words. So it’s been 17 years of fun. Of course I journal offline too as writing is life. I … Continue reading

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My Hysterectomy gave me a release I never expected

Till age 45 I still felt a vacuum inside and a longing for a child. It’s something I could tell no one. Most of my friends had kids and I felt alienated from them. Even at this late age it … Continue reading

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What it was like growing up in the 70’s and 80’s – corded, rotary and pay phones

To have privacy for my phone calls as a teenager, I had to pull the cord of the only home phone and I couldn’t even shut the door of my room as the cord was thick. You were restricted by … Continue reading

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My History

Some blogs are truly engaging. Often I am so drawn in that I feel compelled to leave a comment. Usually the writer has been incredibly generous and brave with their life story. I can’t help but wonder, am I wasting … Continue reading

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Must Watch on Netflix: Three Songs for Benazir

It’s one of those stories that will stay etched in your mind. Beautiful, tender tale of young love, set in Afghanistan. This young couple will captivate you and you will feel for them through their struggles. The couple who seem … Continue reading

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Can I Go Back to the Nineties Please?

I must be missing out I think, as I watch people get ecstatic on social media, posting jubilant memes in response to Singapore lifting some covid restrictions. Alcohol consumption will soon be allowed after 10.30 pm and live music. You … Continue reading

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