A song that spoke to me when I was pining for my dad, was ‘Fix You’. It was no surprise to learn that Chris Martin wrote the song for his wife after she was shattered by her father’s death. It was so completely relevant to me and I am sure anyone facing immeasurable loss. After loss like that you’re afraid to get close to anyone. If you’ve never heard this song before, and are feeling depressed, I truly hope it helps you too. I have always found it soothing and healing even though the powerful lyrics moves me to tears several times.
But crying is not all bad – it can be a good release and I don’t believe in keeping sad emotions in just because everyone thinks you should. I think it’s always better to let it out. I have done too much suppressing in my youth and beyond, and it didn’t do me any good.
So if you’re reading this and bottling up everything inside, just know that it’s perfectly fine and normal to let your grief through. You’re human. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Especially if you’re a boy, as our society can be quite sexist. If you’re a guy and you cry when you’re sad, it’s a sign of strength. Just say, to heck with superficial macho crap.