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Some Days I Can & Other Days I Just Can’t
I can be pretty hard on myself. I think I’m too lax, but that’s what my partner and mum tell me. I am trying desperately to regain my fitness. It gets harder as you’re aging and I suppose even harder … Continue reading
Don’t Know How to Feel About This
I’m getting closer and closer to my father’s age, but he’ll never be any older than 61. It’s weird that if I stood next to him now, to strangers, at the very most he would look like an older brother … Continue reading
No More Masks on Trains or Buses
I was nervous when I heard the news that from Valentines Eve, no less, the rule to wear masks was being removed. You’d think I should be jumping for joy. Back when the rule was imposed, old me would have … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Covid, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged Life, Living, masks, Singapore, thoughts
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13 Days Into the New Year
This post will be all over the place as I cram thoughts about these several days into one post. I’m getting used to the psoriosis. I also now realise that the daivobet steroid gel has worked after a month. Some … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings
Tagged 2023, alone, friends, Life, Living, loneliness, midlife, New Year, personal, solitude, thoughts
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Confused & Conflicted (Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder)
I don’t feel old, but I feel old in comparison to those under 30 especially. Grateful to learn from them as they introduce me to a new world. New terms and new ways of looking at the world. A kind … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Midlife Musings
Tagged aging, beauty, body positive, discrimination, fat, personal, thoughts
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Revolted by the Article in Our Newspapers about Hitting Children
This article truly triggered me. It presents the findings of a survey that shows 40% of parents use corporal punishment. It doesn’t take any stand against it. It even seems to be excusing it. The study found that younger children … Continue reading
Posted in Singapore Headlines
Tagged children, childrens’ day, ethics, morals, personal, protection, Singapore, thoughts, values, wrong
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When My Faith is Shaken
When someone I think is highly intelligent, like Ricky Gervais, talks about evidence and no proof there is a God I feel horrified as I listen, because I don’t want to agree. I don’t want my skeptical brain to concur. … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings
Tagged despair, faith, personal, religion, thoughts, truth
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Ceylonese Singaporean
I am so excited that a novel set in Sri Lanka has been shortlisted for the 2022 Booker prize and I’m hungry to read it. My partner was the one who alerted me to it. He knows me so well. … Continue reading
Posted in Culture & Society, family, Midlife Musings, My Childhood, my teenhood, Singapore Living
Tagged ceylonese, childhood ood, ethnicity, Life, Living, personal, Sri Lanka, thoughts
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Evolution of my Blog
When I first started out blogging actively and regularly in 2010, it was mostly superficial posts on celebs, food and touristy things. It made life exciting. Being a tourist in your own country. These are often my more cheerful posts. … Continue reading
Posted in Blogging & Writing, Midlife Musings, Singapore Living
Tagged blog, blogging, personal, thoughts, writing
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Bus Ride: Living Deliberately
Raindrops on the big glass panel. The coolness of a drizzly morning. Looking out I see teenaged joy. Two on a bike. An old lady with a blue umbrella dragging her trolley on the way to get her groceries. Bell … Continue reading
Posted in Blogging & Writing, Joy, Midlife Musings, Simple Joys, Singapore Living
Tagged bus ride, Life, Living, Singapore, slow living, thoughts
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Truly Frustrated By Sudden Onset And Worsening of Psoriosis
I’ll begin on a positive note. I have found that the moisturiser by Cerave helps me quite a bit. At least it makes the situation less aggravated and calms my skin a little bit. I need to buy more as … Continue reading
Taxi Drivers Educate Me About Why I Can’t Get A Taxi Post Covid & Interesting Daily Routine Stories
I love listening to a new story each time I get into a taxi. Recently the taxi driver who picked me up shared with me that he’s 63 years old, but to me he didn’t look anything past 50 something. … Continue reading
Posted in Singapore Living
Tagged culture, inflation, Life, Living, Singapore, taxis, thoughts
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Feeling Lost today till a Stranger (not quite actually) & Kind Soul reached out
19 years ago I lost my beloved Papa and this whole week (the dates) are a reminder of my nightmares and trauma. I did things today, I would normally enjoy, but I couldn’t quite taste my food or have any … Continue reading
Hesitating to Write about My Psoriasis
I’ve been stopping myself from sharing on this blog, because I’m afraid of being judged. That’s the danger of being honest and putting yourself out there. I really shouldn’t care about the negativity, because that hinders me from connecting with … Continue reading
Posted in Cancer, psoriasis
Tagged cancer, immune system, psoriasis, scalp psoriasis, skin, thoughts, writing
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Oncology Checkup
My writing today will be as real as it can get. Just pure emotion. In real time. 9am: Can’t bring myself to wake up and face the day. There is a heaviness of dread. Can’t wait for the ordeal to … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Cancer
Tagged anxiety, cancer, cathaport, oncologist, personal, Port, radiologist, thoughts, tumour markers
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My Partner’s Thoughts on Aging
Decided to ask B as well, after sharing my mum’s refreshing optimistic viewpoint in the last post. He’s usually a logical pessimist, while I’m a more emotional anxious person and we don’t always agree, so I was surprised to find … Continue reading
Posted in aging, Anxiety, Midlife Musings
Tagged aging, diabetes, health, Natural, plastic surgery, thoughts, vanity
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What are the three best decisions you’ve ever made?
I keep dwelling on decisions I regret so I am keen to do this more positive exercise instead. In real time. That is, whatever I type right now will be published unedited. 1. Immediately I think of travel. There is … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings
Tagged childhood, family, Life, mother, personal, thoughts
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Trying to Help Myself
I tend to build up negative scenarios in my head that never materialise in real life. Often they have to do with failure and rejection. Often these scenes appear in my nightmares when I try « not to think » … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings
Tagged failure, fear, feelings, insecurity, nightmares, Sri Lanka, thoughts, writing
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#1. Letter to my Papa
Papa, the last time I communicated with you was through text. And back then texting was very expensive and I found out you spent S$92 on texts from overseas. Don’t know if it’s accurate, but somehow that number is stuck … Continue reading
Posted in Grief
Tagged coping, grief, letters to my father, loss, love, papa, personal, thoughts
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Thoughts about Our Existence
As I get older, reality doesn’t seem as solid anymore. Everything feels hazy. Almost dream like. I absolutely can’t process that I’m 51 already and 52 next. Past the dreaded milestone (I also have survivor’s guilt as in why did … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, When Work Sucks
Tagged advice, aging, death, grief, Life, midlife, thoughts
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Manifesting Travel
My cousins put up their results of an online travel quiz, so I was curious enough to do it too. They are a dozen years my junior, so in comparison I really haven’t travelled that much. This survey only looks … Continue reading
Posted in Midlife Musings, Singapore Living, Travel
Tagged Austria, Dreams, Europe, Germany, hopes, manifesting, New Zealand, thoughts, travel
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Perth Trip Day 9: Sad the Trip has Ended but always glad to be home sweet home
My mum was especially happy to be home in her comfort zone. I think I was sad to leave as I prefer the cold weather and nature in Australia. But also have been feeling like I’ve finally been let out … Continue reading
